Tuesday, February 27, 2018

The Game Changer

When Drew and Brittany announced that they were going to give us a grand baby, we were excited, of course, Personally I thought it was a little premature for me being so young and all, but I got on board quickly.

To be honest, I was a little hesitant. It was along the long lines of 'I don't know how to be a grandmother' which is not unlike how I felt when discharged from the hospital a day after Drew was born. I believe I actually said to Scott, "Are they really going to let us walk out of the hospital with this baby? We don't know how to take care of a baby?!!!!"

But grandparents? What did we want that to look like? How would it change our lives?

As expected, once we laid eyes and hands on Addy Grace, we were toast. There's nothing quite like holding your child's child. Every new accomplishment we greet with delight. When she made eye contact, smiled at us, and then laughed. Goners!


With every passing day, she's like a drug and we are addicted.

The biggie though was when she called us by name the first time (and EVERY time since), it was a game changer. This was when I knew we would have a forever relationship. My  heart grew three sizes that day! To hear her on FaceTime and in person call out "Mimi!" and "Pop!" is thrilling! I can't get enough of it.


Did you know that names matter to God? The most recent time I read through the Bible, the overarching theme I couldn't miss was names. Starting right after Creation:

God created all the earth, skies and seas and everything on it.
He named Adam then gave him the task of naming all the animals, fish, birds, etc. Also his partner, Eve.

Names matter. Names assign value and identity.

If you are a parent you likely took time and thought to name your children. Our story is that Scott chose Andrew James for our firstborn long before I was even pregnant. Andrew for  the Andrew in the Bible who when meeting Jesus ran to get his brother, telling him he'd met the Messiah and James His favorite book of the Bible. Next came Benjamin Scott because I thought Benjamin was a masculine name (though I feared punk kids calling him Benji) and Scott for obvious reasons. We tussled over Allyson Noelle, becoming those parents who couldn't decide right up to signing on the dotted line.

Of course, each of them assuming our last name was a weighty gift.

Once personalities began to emerge, their names modified a bit. Drew became Drewby or Drewby Dooby Doo or Drewie. Ben quickly was Ben-Ben, Benny (though I promised we wouldn't call him that), Ben-jammin, and Ben B. Ally had so many different nicknames due to her variety of personalities, even her grandmother wasn't sure what her middle name was for awhile: Ally, Ally Cinnamon (get it - Allycin - a min), Sally, Suzanne, Suzy, SallySuzy, SuzySally, Suzy Cutie, Suzy Fandango (don't ask) and so on.

God saw fit that His creation had names too and He gave them nicknames as well. Actually complete name changes to be exact. These changes reflected a change in call and responsibility (think Abram-Abraham; Sarai-Sarah; Jacob-Israel, Saul-Paul). I love that.

Our names are important to God too(He knows each one), but it's also important to Him that we know His.

Repeatedly through the Old Testament God reminds Moses and other leaders to tell the people to call Him "I Am, The Lord, your God.This is My Name Forever." Ex.3:14

He has many names too - God, Father, Prince of Peace, Yahweh, Jehovah, Wonderful, Counselor, Faithful and True, King of Kings, Lord of Lords, Jesus, and many more.

The cool thing about that list is that with each name and description comes a consistent and constant invitation all through the Bible to know Him and call on His Name.

Call on Him for help. Call on Him when distressed. Call on Him when you're lonely. Call on Him when you don't know what to do.

The Bible is filled with promises that when we call on the Name of this personal, intimate God who knows our very names, He will hear. He will answer.

I think Addy has figured out that we love her, adore her, and want to be there for her. And that when she calls our name, we immediately avert our eyes to her.

In fact, she expects it. (Believe me, if we don't, she lets us know!) It's ok because we love it. We want to hear our names come out of her adorable little mouth in her sweet toddler voice. We want her to want us.

It is not hard to draw a sharp parallel here to how God responds to our call, is it? When we call out to God, by name...

He sees, He hears, He delivers, He rescues, He shows up. He wants us to know Him. This God of Names can be trusted. 

He gave you a name because you are valuable. He knows your name and wants relationship with you.






He wants you to know His name because His names describe His character and display His promises.

He invites you to call out that Name for whatever you need, specifically Him.

I tell you, when Addy Grace says "Mimi", everything stops. I would never ignore her. I wouldn't turn my face away. I'm never mad at her. I can't imagine anything she could do that would lessen my love for her. I want her to want me and I want us to be close at all of her ages and stages.

This is a theme of the Bible and the heart of God for you and for me.

Call Him today. Want Him today. He wants you.

Wednesday, February 21, 2018

Favorite Books of 2017

One of my favorite questions both to ask and be asked is, "What are you reading?". You can tell a lot about a person by what they read. Whenever I meet someone especially inspiring or interesting, I always ask. Books can transport us to other worlds and cultures. Reading sparks the imagination, creativity and makes the reader an interesting conversationalist. Even Dr. Seuss knows, "The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go." But beware, "Books can be dangerous. These should be labeled: 'This could change your life.'"* That's what I'm talking about.

Wouldn't it be wonderful if I could invite you over and we would sit in this room discussing books? One day when I have room like that, you can count on it. Rolling ladder - life goal. In the meantime...

Back in January, a friend suggested I write a blog post listing my favorite books of 2017. Since I'm forever asking the question and looking for referrals, I agreed. Most of the books I read are faith-based and lean toward teaching Christian principles. Still, there are a few "vacation reads" included for fun and refreshment. It's always good to read different authors and celebrate their unique writing styles.

Ok, here we go.

1. My most favorite book of the year was Spiritual Rhythm - Being With Jesus Every Season of your Soul by Mark Buchanan.

"This book is about four distinct seasons- not in the natural world but within us. It explores the cycles in our hearts that, like the axial turnings of the earth, mark out seasonal rhythms in our lives: flourishing and fruitful, stark and dismal, cool and windy, or everything coming up new. The seasons I'm describing are not the seasons of aging-where youth is spring, early adulthood summer, middle age fall, and old age winter. Interesting as that is, it's not what I've set my hand to here.

This is: our souls, our hearts, too. A soul in youth can turn grim and arctic, or a heart in dotage can grow breezy and fragrant. The season of the heart are no respecters of age, and seldom of person...We can steward the season we find ourselves in. Just as farmers plow in one season, plant in another, irrigate in another, harvest in another, and let the fields lie in fallow yet another, so there are activities and inactivities that fit our hearts' seasons...Every season will end, in time, but not by my own doing...My responsibility was simply to know the season, and match my actions and inactions to it.

This book looks at the seasons of the heart. I seek two things: Christ's presence in season and out, to know that even the darkness cannot hide him and that by his light I see light. And Christ's wisdom in season and out, to know how best to meet him, how best to make the most out of each season and each moment."

I.Love.This.Book. Having endured a long soul season of winter in recent years, I resonated with the authors' insights. I have never been taught the season of Winter in a way that captured its brutality and celebrated its value in such a way I can now embrace it. And that's just the winter chapters!

2. The Way of the Dragon or the Way of the Lamb - Searching for Jesus' Path of Power in a Church That Has Abandoned It by Jamin Goggin and Kyle Strobel

I've been increasingly troubled by how the Church seems to operate more and more like the world, the culture's influence taking over and replacing Biblical principles for living, working, dreaming, etc. So when a blogger I trust recommended it, I was drawn in right away.

 "Why do so many rock-star pastors implode under the spotlight? Why do modern-day churches become so entangled in growing their brand that they lose sight of their true purpose? Because, Christians have succumbed to the temptations of power and forgotten Jesus’ seemingly contradictory path to power—first giving it up.The authors invite readers to join them on an adventure around the world, seeking out great sages of the faith with uncommon wisdom to offer those traveling the path of Christian life. As readers eavesdrop on the authors’ conversations with people such as J. I. Packer, Dallas Willard, Marva Dawn, John Perkins, Jean Vanier, James Houston, and Eugene Peterson, they begin to piece together the new-old reality of following Jesus today."

This book challenged my thinking in a disturbing and refreshing way. Chapter after chapter, I'd lament, "I need to talk to someone about this", recruiting a few others to read and discuss with me. If you're worried that you've violated Romans 12:1, 2 and have been assimilated into Western (American) culture without putting up much fight, this book is for you.  It's a sharp critique of those of us who settle for quick fixes instead of deep wisdom. You will learn the strength and beauty of humility and Jesus' seemingly unconventional way to power: through weakness.

This was the "must have" book I added to my sons' libraries for Christmas.

3. Between Heaven & the Real World - My Story by Steven Curtis Chapman

I've written here in the blog many times, that I love biographies/autobiographies. For some reason, I prefer to read these in the summer, a time to escape from my life and jump into someone else's for a while.  These are not always the stories of great Christians, sometimes I like to indulge my imagination into the lives of the celebrities of the 80's, reminiscing my childhood or just out of pure curiosity. We can learn good things from all sorts of memoirs.

Every summer we required our children to read a missionary biography. When disenchanted and complaining about your current plight, there's nothing like a read about those who have suffered for their faith and been rewarded greatly. These were the heroes I wanted them looking up to, not those who pop culture put before them.

My husband Scott loves Steven Curtis Chapman the way I love MercyMe. We have arranged vacation time around seeing this man in concert many times and had the privilege of meeting him twice. We always say he is better than you hope he will be. Humble, deep, talented and a genuine giant of the faith. Naturally, his memoir was on my list last summer. While I know much of his story through following his ministry, his family walked through a very difficult time of loss and grieving and have come out as gold (in my opinion). This is their story and I highly recommend it. He's a hero whose example is one to follow.

4. Out of the House of Bread - Satisfying Your Hunger for God with the Spiritual Disciplines by Preston Yancey

This book. I read it during Lent last year and really enjoyed it. This is one of those books though, where you have to use discernment in my opinion. You don't have to agree with or be comfortable with every chapter in order to find value. You decide.

The author mirrors the process of making bread from scratch to working spiritual disciplines into your daily life. I love love love the concept. Probably because I'm obsessed with crusty white bread. Why is it so good? He encourages readers to try his recipe and work at it throughout the reading of the book. I did not do that. Yet. But I did take my time on each chapter. I like his style.

I also like the subject because I think spiritual disciplines are important and necessary, but we don't often hear much about it because discipline sounds like work and we kind of like our comfort more.

"Spiritual disciplines are like a well-stocked chocolate drawer. You never know what you might need at a given time, but the security of knowing you have plenty on hand and having just enough is vital. Spiritual disciplines are kinds of prayer, and when you find yourself in the middle of a season where nothing spiritual seems to matter and nothing feels like it's working, having something new to try, a different perspective, a new way of telling God you're in need or you're lonely or you''re just fed up can feel like a lifeline. It can be a lifeline." 

This is a book about prayer. We can learn a lot from it and be inspired to try new things. Even if all of it is not for you, there is some good stuff here. Take what works.

5. A Man Called Ove by Fredrick Backman

If I'm not sure of a book, I borrow. I saw this title in a small bookstore in Lake Placid. The reason I noticed it is the several employee recommendation post-it notes surrounding it. This is not my usual type book and don't think I would have given it a second glance until  I saw one quote guarantee both laughing and crying I was hooked. I mean, go big or go home, right? I like to read an occasional novel (summer reading), so I took a picture of it and went to the Lake Pleasant library to check it out (having fun isn't hard when you've got a library card!). I wasn't really expecting it, but sometimes a small town can surprise you - it was there - I didn't have to order it from another library!

Ove is a curmudgeon. He is grumpy, yet lovable we eventually learn. His responses to his new loud neighbors are so wickedly humorous you will laugh out loud, and his devotion to his late wife so heartbreakingly sweet you may just shed a tear or two. It lacks violence and profanity, is life-affirming and relationship-driven. This book will surprise you.

"He went through life with his hands firmly shoved into his pockets. She danced."

“A time comes in every man’s life when he decides what sort of man he is going to be.”   

"He had never heard anything quite as amazing as that voice. She talked as if she was continuously on the verge of breaking into giggles. And when she giggled she sounded the way Ove imagined champagne bubbles would have sounded if they were capable of laughter.”

“You don't fool me, darling,"she said with a playful little smile and crept into his big arms. "You're dancing on the inside, Ove, when no one's watching. And I'll always love you for that. Whether you like it or not.”
 
I found my father in this book and by the end wondered if, when he was living, I simply didn't understand who he was deep down underneath a sometimes harsh outer shell. This is another book I needed someone to read with me to discuss. I can't imagine a scenario where the reader will not love this character and the writers' spectacular use of words to tell a sweet, surprising story. 

6. Come Rain or Come Shine by Jan Karon

Many years ago, a missionary friend from Kenya introduced me to The Mitford Series, aka the Father Tim books. I'm not one for a long book series as I find them sometimes cumbersome and I despise waiting for the next volume to come available, but this is my one exception.

I believe when they came on the scene in my life I still had young kids at home. Why do I remember that? Because at least five of the books were already in print and I devoured them in one summer. Quiet afternoon reading times were uncharacteristically lengthy because I couldn't put the book down. I hope my kids aren't scarred from the neglect.

What young woman falls in love with a 60-year old bachelor preacher? This one. And all his quirky congregation. I've found many church friends and acquaintances in this series. Don't ask who.

As the saga continues, every installment is a delight. My husband has learned this is a slam dunk win on Christmas morning and never disappoints. The next one, To Be Where You Are, is currently on my shelf waiting its turn. One of these winters I'm going to start from the beginning.

Honorable mentions:

7 Women by Eric Metaxes
A Long Obedience in the Same Direction by Eugene Peterson
The Broken Way by Ann Voskamp

Maybe you're not a reader. I doubt you would have made it this far if you aren't, but if you're still resisting, let me encourage you. Reading is life giving. What I especially love is that we lose ourselves in books. We find ourselves there too.

So many books, so little time. I hope you found something here that intrigues you. Consider grabbing one or more of these to fight the mid-winter blues.

Please share your recommendations too! Either in the comment section or on Facebook or Instagram. I'm always eager to read what others are reading.

*Helen Exley


Tuesday, February 13, 2018

Big Day Tomorrow

Wait - where did January go? It seems we haven't met here in over a month. It must be because we are all busy enjoying this winter beauty. I mean, come on. Or we've been sick. Or busy. Oh well, it doesn't matter now - we're back together!

Today I'm getting excited about tomorrow. No, not for Valentine's Day. I mean red is usually my favorite color and I love chocolate, but it's not my favorite holiday. Not by a long shot.

Lent, the 40 Day adventure leading up to Easter begins Wednesday. Seems early to be planning for Easter, but I don't write the calendar. I'm just a player who loves the sacred holidays more and more as I get older and learn more about Jesus.

As I read and study up more on these holidays and celebrating them appropriately and with increasing enthusiasm, I learn something new every year. It seems "many Christians are rediscovering fasting along with other long-neglected disciplines that can deepen and enrich" our faith."

"Christian fasting is the voluntary denial of something for a specific period of time for a specific purpose...a restriction that creates space for God....There is no Lent without fasting."

After the abundance of celebrating Christmas, we plunge into a fasting, a stripping, a thinning of self (and some of its desires) to make room for God. "We abstain and resist and refocus our attention on God, who is our life."

I love this.
I need this.
I dread it some too (because I am weak).
But I always benefit.

Last Spring I fasted from social media. I argued with God in prayer for a full 20 minutes I think. He won. But really I won. Talk about created space that God could fill with Himself. Win Win!

Scott and I often embark on the same fast. This year will be no different. Food fasts, while most Biblical, aren't "hard" enough now that we have completed Daniel fasts and others.

The point is to create a gap, a hunger, a hole that God can fill anew and our affections will be turned toward Him instead, directing our thoughts to linger on Jesus' great sacrifice of love.

Desserts - nope.
Bread - nope.
Eating out - do you know where we live?
Having just finished another Whole 30, none of these feel like enough. We just did it and wasn't for a sacred reason.

What, Lord? What do you think?
Oh.
I'm not so sure about that.
I mean, it's still winter.
It's cold up here in the mountains for many more weeks.
What will I hold every morning?
The smell!
40 days?!?!
It's going to hurt.
Oh right. That's the point.
Scott says yes. Geez, that guy.

So now I'm going to indulge one last time before tomorrow.

Lest you think I engage begrudgingly, oh no. This is my pleasure. My privilege. And after the headache subsides and I beat my body into submission, God will have good things for me,
 and I. Want. Them. More. Than. I. Want. Coffee.

As always, we've twisted our kids' arms, I mean, invited our adult children to join us here. I'm amazed at what came through in the family text last night and today.

Sports on tv.
Netflix.
Social media.

They get it. Transformation is on the horizon. Just like Easter is.

"When we fast during Lent, we identify with Jesus in a tangible way. The weeks slowly build in intensity. The more that we can enter into His sufferings and death in that final, holy week, the more we will know both our own great sin and need and God's great goodness and love."

Don't forget to read and meditate on the Bible. This is how He reveals Himself. Quiet yourself in the presence of God in order to take an honest look at yourself. This can be unflattering and discouraging, but take heart, "we confess to God who loves us and who wants to transform us, who describes Himself as gracious, merciful, slow to anger, abounding in steadfast love, and relenting from punishment."

You have nothing to fear.
He's not mad at you.
He is for you.
He wants you.
He sent His Son to free you from sin's grip and give you hope.
One day He'll send Him back again to get us.

We will rise with Him.
Resurrection Day indeed.

This is the stuff of sacred holidays.
Don't cheat yourself and make it about the bunny.
There is so much more.



 *all quotes from Living the Christian Year by Bobby Gross